Question for you shy guys out there, and by shy I mean capable of holding eye contact with a woman and able to contribute to small talk, but sort of keeps to himself and not one to start a conversation or try to make eye contact first.
If there was a woman in your yoga class who usually smiled and said good morning to you and who when she noticed the day you cut your very long hair very short she immediately said I like it! before even saying hello, would you think she was interested in you? She talks a little to a couple others but mostly keeps to herself.
I'm not sure what else to do aside from just asking point blank if he'd like to get coffee one day after class. But I keep stopping myself for many, many reasons I won't bother to go into because you can probably guess. I don't know if he's got a girlfriend, I'm tempted to say of course he does because he's cute, and I have no idea if he's age appropriate for me because he looks young, but I'm drawn to his quiet, non-aggressive energy. It's actually pretty telling because physically he's not the type I go for at all: full beard, muscular chest, long hair though that's gone now- he skews very masculine but without any machismo!! At least, from the very limited exchanges I've had with him.
Give me some small talk to start a conversation with him! I don't know what to say to find out the essentials: girlfriend? how old? what he does for a living? does he like it?
Or at least tell me what I should say to let him know I'm interested and the ball is in his court?
I'm so not the type to freak out if he's not interested and I want to tell him that so if he isn't he doesn't have to feel awkward coming to class. (I'm content to just look at his ass. What? A girl can't look at a guy's ass? That's sexist!) But how do you get that across without sounding like you're just looking for a good time?
aiee.
And then I just found out that an old co-worker of mine is getting divorced. He's age appropriate and a genuinely great guy. I can't say I've never wondered what it would be like to be with him, not in a sexual way (usually my problem), but as his girlfriend in a relationship that went deeper than office gossip. I don't know that I'm attracted to him…but I feel like he could be someone I could try with because I like him so much as a person. Then again, I'd HATE myself if I ended up not feeling any chemistry and then had to hurt him in any way.
I should say this line of thinking isn't coming from left field. It's been quite a while since we saw each other and he sent me an email last week just to say hi and casually mentioned maybe getting together to catch up. I thought he was married so it seemed all fine and good but now knowing that he's single it puts another layer on it. I ended up stopping by his office and that's when he told me face to face that he and the wife "split" also in a sort of casual manner in the course of our conversation. Thus, the thinking.
gaaaa.
Yogajoe is a better first try I think…so shy guys, help me out! :)
If there was a woman in your yoga class who usually smiled and said good morning to you and who when she noticed the day you cut your very long hair very short she immediately said I like it! before even saying hello, would you think she was interested in you? She talks a little to a couple others but mostly keeps to herself.
I'm not sure what else to do aside from just asking point blank if he'd like to get coffee one day after class. But I keep stopping myself for many, many reasons I won't bother to go into because you can probably guess. I don't know if he's got a girlfriend, I'm tempted to say of course he does because he's cute, and I have no idea if he's age appropriate for me because he looks young, but I'm drawn to his quiet, non-aggressive energy. It's actually pretty telling because physically he's not the type I go for at all: full beard, muscular chest, long hair though that's gone now- he skews very masculine but without any machismo!! At least, from the very limited exchanges I've had with him.
Give me some small talk to start a conversation with him! I don't know what to say to find out the essentials: girlfriend? how old? what he does for a living? does he like it?
Or at least tell me what I should say to let him know I'm interested and the ball is in his court?
I'm so not the type to freak out if he's not interested and I want to tell him that so if he isn't he doesn't have to feel awkward coming to class. (I'm content to just look at his ass. What? A girl can't look at a guy's ass? That's sexist!) But how do you get that across without sounding like you're just looking for a good time?
aiee.
And then I just found out that an old co-worker of mine is getting divorced. He's age appropriate and a genuinely great guy. I can't say I've never wondered what it would be like to be with him, not in a sexual way (usually my problem), but as his girlfriend in a relationship that went deeper than office gossip. I don't know that I'm attracted to him…but I feel like he could be someone I could try with because I like him so much as a person. Then again, I'd HATE myself if I ended up not feeling any chemistry and then had to hurt him in any way.
I should say this line of thinking isn't coming from left field. It's been quite a while since we saw each other and he sent me an email last week just to say hi and casually mentioned maybe getting together to catch up. I thought he was married so it seemed all fine and good but now knowing that he's single it puts another layer on it. I ended up stopping by his office and that's when he told me face to face that he and the wife "split" also in a sort of casual manner in the course of our conversation. Thus, the thinking.
gaaaa.
Yogajoe is a better first try I think…so shy guys, help me out! :)
